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The pursuit of Happiness - The irony in achieving one’s goals!


Posted By: Poonam Srivastava/Atika Singh                

An unsaid wish – I wanna go back to the time when "getting high" meant "on a swing". When "drinking" meant "mango juice". When "Dad" was the only "hero", when "love" was "mom's hug". When "Dad’s shoulder" was "the highest place on earth". When you’re "worst enemies were your siblings". When the only thing that could "hurt" were "bruised knees", when the only things "broken" were your "toys" and when "good byes" only meant "till tomorrow". - Anonymous

In today’s information age thanks to the rampant development in technology, we are seeing unprecedented changes in our everyday life. Whether its career choices, the academic courses we pursue, how we connect with friends and family or even how we search for potential partners. Today most of us have the freedom to choose from the smallest things like the food we want to eat to the person we want to spend our lives with. This growing freedom of choice coupled with the free flow of information via internet, media and social networks, drive individuals to excel and achieve success at an accelerated pace. With the growing number of expectations to fulfill, aspirations to accomplish, and the need to prove one-self, our world predominately centers our needs, and our desires.



Today’s generation is mostly consumed by its quest for achieving success, as soon as possible. Thanks to plethora of opportunities, excellent salaries and the age of EMIs, where whatever you dream you can get now, our metrics for success centers around our material comforts or the recognition for power. Happiness and well being for us is a “someday somewhere phenomena” usually linked to achieving our big goals.

We forget that well being and happiness is actually a state of being and is not linked necessary to the goals we pursue. One of the biggest things we could do to break this cycle is to actually take a pause, to evaluate the pros and cons of our relentless pursuit and actually see if it’s really worth it. We go about life with a pair of blinders missing out on everything life throws at us our friends, family, the air we breathe, the birds on the tree, the love around us! The scary part is when we do achieve what we set out too, and get it, we are still not happy since the goal post has changed. So most of our lives just go in chasing different goal posts! So the big question is can you afford to be a tortoise and not a rabbit in today’s highly competitive day and age?

Take this short quiz to figure your priorities and see which way you are headed.

Remember they are no right or wrong answers!

1. Life has to be well planned with clear professional goals and timelines.
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

2. Most people know me for my professional achievements.
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

3. My work usually takes precedence over family & friends.
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

4. I would rather spend a holiday at work for that promotion than a fun day with the family
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

5. I rarely take out time to do things I enjoy.
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

6. I command respect because of my designation (professional position) that I hold rather than the person I am.
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

7. An annual increment of 20% is more valuable than a better job profile.
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

8. Financial Security= Emotional Security
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

9. The choices that I make are governed by the resultant standing that I see for myself in society.
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

10. Securing my future takes precedence over my passion.
A: Strongly Agree
B: Agree
C: Disagree
D: Strongly Disagree

Key:

Mostly A’s & B’s you are focused on your goals and are ambitions. You may want to look at the cost you are paying to achieve your goals!

Mostly C’s & D’s overall good place to be in, as long as there is work-life balance; however don’t completely lose sight of your goals – key is balance.

(Poonam Srivastava is a Delhi based writer who has published books and articles on subjects of social innovation and practical spirituality. She also actively volunteers her time to promote causes related to these spheres.)

(Atika Singh is a post graduate in Counseling Psychology from Amity Institute of Behavioral & Allied Sciences and graduate in History from Delhi University. She has been actively involved in the emotional counseling space; and is passionate about empowering individuals to deal with their personal and professional issues, and achieve greater success. She is a certified Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioner.)
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