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Posted By: Poonam Srivastava/Atika Singh
Every little girl dreams that her wedding will be nothing less than a dream come true – a handsome knight, the brightness of lights, the sweet smell of flowers, a heart filled with love, eyes gleam with the hopes of tomorrow, the giggle of friends, the pampering of relatives does make the D day, a day to remember.
It is the beginning of a fairytale, the ceremony that began as a symbol of their union into holy matrimony today has become a flourishing business. Each ritual signifies a promise undertaken by the bride or the groom for honor, respect, love, understanding, loyalty and commitment to one another.
The rituals are also a symbol to prepare the couple for the new life that lies ahead. However in today’s times the wedding celebrations are not just for the couple and their families but determine our social standing in the society. The elaborate ceremonies, the lavish venues, the contemporary themes, extended guest list, star performances, exorbitant exchange of gifts (which is the modern day dowry practice) has somewhere diluted the solemnity of the occasion. Most of the times the couple gets embroiled in the fanfare, rather than comprehend the somberness of what this union entails!
Yes, the celebrations are essential as this day comes only once in a lifetime but is the extravaganza necessary? Is the one-manship over the other to prove one’s status necessary? Is the exhibition of wealth necessary? What is necessary is the promise that the couple makes to each other – "to love and to hold" to earnestly fulfill this for a lifetime despite the odds.
As the initial euphoria will end but what’ll carry them through is the vows that they took to respect each other's likes and dislikes, opinion and beliefs, hopes and dreams and fears even though they may not always understand them.
As this will create a peaceful, stable home with love as a foundation on which they can build their lives, leading to a happy family and a happier society at large where the egos of individual have no place.
Do send us your views on how in today’s times the solemnity of the wedding day is preserved while still enjoying the celebrations.
Poonam Srivastava is a Delhi based writer who has published books and articles on subjects of social innovation and practical spirituality. She also actively volunteers her time to promote causes related to these spheres.
Atika Singh is a post graduate in Counseling Psychology from Amity Institute of Behavioral & Allied Sciences and graduate in History from Delhi University. She has been actively involved in the emotional counseling space; and is passionate about empowering individuals to deal with their personal and professional issues, and achieve greater success. She is a certified Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioner.
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