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I've been seeing someone I met online, in a long distance relationship for a year and half, and I need to decide whether to commit to marriage or move on. I'm 38, She's nearly 36. I find her attractive,and among the nicest people I know, but our interests differ and I feel no intellectual connection in the relationship, though the emotional understanding/caring and physical attraction is good.
I had little interest in the relationship a year ago. She would call and I am not assertive enough to say no on the face and so never gave an outright no- though I gave many indirect hints like mentioning that I get bored talking to her.
Over the early part of this year I decided to challenge my assumptions and give the relationship a fair chance, so I visited her several times. We are like good friends since then, and I find I care for her and want to see her happy. But still the core issue does bother me and deadlines I set for committing to the relationship have passed and I could not say yes.
A psychologist I visit suggested that I am in love with the process of trying to meet people online ( have been on the site 5 years) and am finding it hard to give up that life. Online articles on commitment too advise giving up the fantasy of an ideal person. So with great effort I have been able to accept the person as is- and am thinking of committing. But not being a serial dater does not mean marrying just anyone. I sometimes fear I'm making a mistake, at the same time think it could just be my fear of commitment. Mix with this my desire to make her happy. Are my fears baseless or should I say no ?
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Hari,[India]
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Thursday, November 05, 2009 1:10 AM
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