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Dr Sonya Mehta is one of the most outspoken and articulate Indian psychologists today.

Practising for the past 15 years, Dr Mehta received her training in the US, where she earned her Ph.D in Psychology.

For the past three years she has served as a consultant to various TV news channels and has been a frequent guest on We the people on NDTV 24X7 hosted by Barkha Dutt and Lounge on NDTV GOOD TIMES.

The mother of two teenagers, Dr Mehta is particularly interested in adolescents and in dealing with relationship issues.

AND SHE is here to answer your queries!

About the show :
Hosted by Rajat Kapoor, Lounge is a tri-weekly chat show which invites real people to tell real stories.

So many people have questions to ask, issues to discuss, problems to fix, experiences to share, stories to tell.

This show gives people the platform to acknowledge issues we should be talking about and to answer questions we should be asking.

It’s a progressive show which talks about things that are happening and changing in India but people are still shying away from.


Through its course different kinds of relationships are explored -- from falling in love to falling out of love, from marriages to divorces – every relationship comes within it scope.

The show celebrates the dynamics of these relationships.
 
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Question : Hi,

Please try to keep this as private and not public. I've been married to this guy for almost 3yrs now against everyone's wish but now everything is fine as far as parents are concerned. However, apart from all other objections there vr 2 reasons y I got married to him.
One, even without financial background, I was confident that he's ambitious so will do well in life.
Two, inspite of being from orthodox background, he himself was very broadminded.
Now the reality has bitten me and I realize that he doesn't give my career any importance. Twice I had 2 leave my job due to lack of this understanding. Secondly, now he's without a job.
Is my marriage coming to an end? Have I made the wrong decision? I'm very confused. Please help. Should I walk out? There is no relation left between us as a married couple. In spite of all the above, I still feel that if he starts respecting me, I don't think I have any problems in staying with him. Please suggest.
Posted By: S,[India]
Date: Wednesday, October 28, 2009 11:23 AM
 
Answer : Dear S,
When times are tough and it sounds like thats what your husband is dealing with having lost his job, everything seems bleak and hopeless. To decide what to do put this situation into context for me. Has he always been intolerant and unsupportive or is this a more recent phenomenon.
Clearly there are many issues that you both have to deal with and resolve but I would encourage a little patience. Can you bear to wait this out and see if the situation and his behavior improves once he is employed again. Men often cannot cope when they lose a job- for them its very tied in to their identity and self worth.
Once he finds a job and things seem a bit more stable you should bring up the problems you are facing. Perhaps it would be helpful to have a relative or a counselor mediate the discussion.Try to have a constructive problem solving approach rather than an emotional fault finding discussion and see if these issues are resolvable or if in fact the marriage is over.
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